Self Confidence Hypnosis

In most relationships, or anytime we are having trouble with self confidence or self esteem, we get told... "Just be yourself" What this usually means is "have self confidence" or "have self esteem".

Um...Okay.

That's like you asking me how to make money and I tell you "have a million dollars". It doesn't help the situation.

So, the real question is how do you "just be yourself" or why can't you just be yourself.

Usually, self confidence is gained by having your feelings and thoughts validated by those around you, whether it be your parents when you were growing up, your teachers in school, or your current social circle.

But, no one is perfect, meaning we don't always get that validation, so most of us have issues in some area of our lives.

That is usually the answer to why we can't just be ourselves.

The how part can be learned in self hypnosis.

In self hypnosis, you can give your mind new thoughts and attitudes which will help you react to certain situations with more self confidence.

There are also some other methods you can use to give you self confidence when you are feeling insecure in a situation.

For example, if you are in a group of people and you start feeling insecure, the easiest way to overcome this is to focus entirely on what the other people are saying.

Get involved in them and what they are saying.

Most of the time you will completely forget about yourself and your emotions around the situation.

If it comes time for you to talk and you start feeling insecure again, just ask them another question and allow them to keep talking.

For example, if they say, "...and that's how I got this job."

Instead of relating your own experience like we normally would do, respond with something like "so what do you like about being in sales?"

You are letting them talk and completely keeping the focus off of you, so you avoid feeling insecure which, over time, will increase your self confidence.

Another method to try is practice. To elaborate...

Where are you needing self confidence in your life? In talking to the opposite sex, playing a musical instrument, playing sports?

Whatever it is, find some time alone and practice doing it.

For example, if you are wanting to play basketball, go to a court at night or sometime when no one is around and practice taking shots over and over until you get it.

This will help you get better at whatever you are trying to do.

However, this won't completely solve the problem by itself because when you go to play a basketball game with other people(staying with our example), the feelings of anxiety and insecurity are still there.

So it's a good idea to use this method with the other method of focusing on the other people and not your own feelings.

Another thing to realize is that no one is perfect. So, if you take a shot and miss, it's not the end of the world.

Michael Jordan has missed thousands of shots before.

The key is to stop yourself at the first negative thought and start focusing on the game again.

There are also some great books that I highly recommend...

Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers.

How To Win Friends And Influence People by Dale Carnegie.

And again, self hypnosis can have a dramatic effect on your self confidence as you learn to give your mind new thoughts and attitudes.

So, use these tools and go...

MAKE a great day.